I’ve pretty much decided to grow the colour out of my hair and go, well, grey I suppose. Mostly out of curiosity to find out how much grey is actually in there after all these years of colour. Plus a good friend who is about 40 and completely grey and looks totally awesome so I figure, why not give it a shot?
The reactions I’ve had are really interesting. Mr. Jazz has no problem with it, he says I’ll look really good, but then he’d say the same thing if I came home with my hair purple and green one day, cause Mr. Jazz? Sorta biased he is. In general men just seem to not give much of a damn one way or another.
But women? Whoa. Most everyone has said (in come cases screeched):
YOU CAN’T DO THAT!!!
Me: Um, yeah, I can, I just have to not dump more stinking chemicals on my head. If I don’t like it, I can start up again with the dye.
Them*: But you’ll look older!
Me: Yeah, I’ll probably look 45. No biggie, I am.
Them: Or even older!!!
Me: And if I think so, I can colour again.
Them: But by then people will KNOW you’re greying!!!**
Me: Um, I’m 45, it surely can’t be that big a surprise for anyone…
And the conversation goes round and round, never getting anywhere. What the hell is wrong with looking your age? I find it somewhat paradoxical that women bitch and moan about how they are obliged to look a particular way, wear a certain size, look no older than 19, and that society expects so damn much of them physically and yadda yadda yadda, but if a woman actually goes ahead and steps out of the mould, she gets blasted*** for it.
I'm really beginning to think that all in all women quite like their "hell" and despite bitching and moaning about it, are really quite happy to live there.
* Them because pretty much every woman has the same reaction
** Notice the exclamation marks. I’ve kept it down to three, but usually it sounds more like 10.
*** But I also got told by someone that I was incredibly courageous. Courageous? Too low maintenance to be bothered perhaps, but where the hell does courage come into it? Will people throw stones at me in the street ya think?